Let Change Begin With You

Igot in what some New Yorkers refer to as a ‘tin can’ (taxi) the other day and said my usual, “Hello,” and asked to be taken to my home address.  As we drove to my neighborhood, the taxi said, “Shoot, that is a new sign they just put up.”  I looked up and it had a DO NOT ENTER sign, basically shutting off car traffic completely.  I live in the Flatiron/Gramercy park area of the city and the Flatiron building is a high traffic area. I said to the taxi driver, “I wonder if they are doing that in response to the terrorist attacks going on in the world (shutting down high pedestrian traffic areas to cars) or just another experiment on how to move traffic?” As we all know, abroad there is the horrendous recurring incidents of cars driving into innocent pedestrians overseas.

The taxi driver responded, “People are crazy! Why is the world so crazy now?”

I said, “I know what you are saying.” People are disconnected, forgetting we are living, breathing souls.  We are looked at as pegs for anger instead of human beings. I continued, “I hit a deer last summer, and one of the legs of the deer was broken. That deer would not survive. I felt horrible because I hurt a living, breathing being despite the fact that he jumped directly in front of my car and could have hurt me. So, if I was so upset about hurting an animal, it’s hard for me to get my head wrapped around physically hurting human beings.”  

He responded, “I know, people are just crazy sick.”  

I responded, “Why can’t people understand that every life is just as valuable as the next?  You and I are equally as important to the world, every single one of us.”

He replied, “You and I speak the same language there.”

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As I think about the fact that ill people are hurting innocent individuals again and again, creating fear about living life freely, I wonder:  How can we fight back against this?  

Peace has to start with you. I think the biggest lesson is to remind one another of how valuable each and every one of us is to the evolution of this planet. Recognize that what you might not understand or think of as a fulfilled life is in some way a part of the big picture and is just as much a contribution to this world as whatever anyone else does whether a person runs themselves ragged in trying to create things or a person who sits back and casually watches life go by.  

It’s an easy, yet simple thing that we often forget: we tend to treat others not as lovingly or kindly. Today, this message is more important than ever. We see and know this because of the state of the world and the things we are fighting in order to keep the world a safe place, where life is valued and cherished throughout the world. Don’t disconnect or become numb; find a way to remind yourself that we are all connected each and every day. So maybe when you are about to lose your patience with that clerk, or that person in your way, or that car that is in front of you, ask yourself: “How can I connect with whatever I find so unbearable at this moment, and instead release it in another, more peaceful way?” Make it your way of saying I will not tolerate these acts of violence in the world against innocent people, including yourself.

Change your reactions.  Let it begin with you.

 

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Newsletter July ’17

Do you have your own space to heal?

What are you trying to heal?

We are all in the same boat on this journey called life.  We are all trying to heal something within ourselves. This I know for sure.  There is no one who is the exception to this.  Don’t forget this; remind yourself when needed that this is the case for everyone.  We all have wounds and disappointments, as well as moments of joy.  The two work in tandem throughout this journey and, remember, one will dominate at different times in our lives.

Most importantly, be gentle, patient, and kind with yourself and find space for healing on a regular basis. And by “space” I don’t necessarily mean physical space (although this is frequently part of it); I mean personal “down” time or moments when you can breathe, exist, and recharge. Having and setting aside time for this space brings a sense of peace that is truly a building block of health. This does not translate in any way to being lazy about healing. Actually, you have to put some effort into finding, creating, and maintaining this space. It always makes things better when we put an effort into anything in life. Effort is what creates healing, which stems from beautiful moments, memories, and environments.

It is no secret that life can get hectic. I have just spent months and countless hours helping my boyfriend with his project of gut-renovating a home east of the city in the Hamptons. The amount of time, energy, and hours we have dedicated to the countless details could not be calculated. So, while I know these fun things are in no way big issues in life, creating this space for us is important because it is a project of creating an environment where we can heal ourselves- a place to relax and rejuvenate outside of  the city for weekend getaways and enjoying time with one another, family and friends. This will ultimately create a beautiful space with beautiful moments and memories.

The thought of how to create an island in the kitchen, how bathrooms should be laid out, picking tiles and flooring- it’s all fun, but at the same time stressful because you don’t want to make a mistake. If you do make a mistake, it ultimately ends up in disappointment and having to correct things which costs even more money and time, and this can cause stress.  It is all worth it, but it has been stressful for multiple reasons and it creates strain.  After many months, we are finally living in the space on the weekends and things are still not finished- boxes still need to be unpacked, lights still need to be installed, furniture is still on order, the backyard needs to be finished so we can sit and enjoy it and things needs to be organized and sorted through. We still have a lot of work to do, and through this work we are getting rid of things we don’t need by passing them on to others who can use them. All of these things are freeing and healing and have resulted in having a space for peace and relaxation.  We have created our goal of a place for rest from our hectic week where we can sleep in silence and near nature.

It helps to have more space and square footage to lounge in the Hamptons compared to our city apartment. At the same time, we also have more to care for and maintain.  When I get frustrated or tired of it, I remind myself that it takes work to create beautiful things that heal and one cannot be lazy about beauty and healing. You must keep at things in life for healing whether it be a home for healing or any type of healing. If you do not put some intention into creating this space, you might never have those quiet, restful days where you kick back and just do nothing. I think we can all recognize that there are times that doing nothing is more productive than doing anything.

So, what are you trying to heal? What can you create to build a mental or physical space for healing in your life? It doesn’t have to be renovating a house- it can be creating time to go for a walk, creating a meal, cleaning out a cluttered room, creating a nook just for you with a chair and cozy blanket, or simply finding time to go to the salon.

Remember: healing is a lifelong process that only you can perfect. If you are patient and willing to put the effort in to create a beautiful life, you will have one.

-Mo

What Transcends Time?

The obvious answer can be science or a proven theory like those that Einstein left behind, and some that were unproven theories of his and more philosophy. Often it’s music, a movie, a book or artwork that transcends time. So, creations or building things can outlive generations- and one could group these things into one’s own form of art.

But also- more than just art- these works that transcend time are a reflection of the energy that great thinkers before us were brave enough to pursue. As we know, Picasso was not a famous artist until after he left us. The musician Sting had a hard time getting started because his expression of music at the time was ahead of its time.  Einstein, Picasso,or those people still with us all looked ahead at the big picture; but ultimately, they lived life through passions that led them. Those things that gave them energy often overtook their thoughts, inspiring them to create. They put their energy into something that moved them.

Now, we are not all Einstein or Picasso, nor are we figures of history for the world.  More often, we are figures of history for those whose lives we share, namely our family and friends. The short answer to what transcends time is your energy that you hold and have shared with people (ie. how you treat others) and others. The things you choose to create or build in your everyday life through passion and action.

So, you can ask yourself, what primary energy do you give to people who surround you?  Are you kind, are you positive or are you a “Debbie Downer”?  Are you hopeful, do you share, do you look beyond yourself? Do you laugh with others or do you argue or insult?  We need to remind ourselves that negativity often has more impact on others than anything else we leave.  What are you leaving behind you?  This is not meant to be a morbid question, it is meant to really say, think about how you act each day.  If you want to go deeper, what is your legacy? Is it that you shared experiences of joy and love or is it that you were always talking about what ifs or criticizing. Just a reminder, criticism of those who surround you is a direct reflection of you are your own shortcomings.  If we let go of criticism and focused on accepting what is, much negativity would go away.  Of course, constructive, kind criticism is always a way to grow and expand, but aggressive, insulting criticism can easily become a legacy you will leave behind if you don’t pay attention.  Instead, leave what is possible for every person- kindness, acceptance, hope and belief in others.  

I wrote about my cousin Phyllis in my book, Solitary Genius because although she has been gone for over 10 years now, her energy still remains. And the energy that I hold with me are all the positive ones she shared. The belief she had in me. This is not to say she didn’t give me constructive criticism, because she most definitely did, but she did it in a kind way- either paired with a joke or in a genuine, peaceful, calm environment. She was someone who had a different path than most and she sparked wonder in me. I wondered how she created a life as a Casting Director. I wondered how she created a nice family with beautiful things in her life. She did this by working hard, holding some close friendships and maintaining the ones she had before her- For instance, she had an annual party with her friends from grade school.  She believed in the importance of family and friends as family.  At one point she said, I need to have more celebrations.  She was saying, I need to create more memories with those people important in my  life.  So, what memories are you creating with the ones you care about in your life?  How do you treat your family, your friends and the people you interact with every day?  None of us will ever be Einstein and Picasso, that was their own personal legacy. Your legacy is entirely up to you.

 

Tips to Create Change

Creating change is the most time consuming thing you can take on, but also the most beneficial.  Therefore, the bigger the change, the more commitment needed. But it starts with being clear on what you want.  If you aren’t sure about what you want, then you don’t have a goal. If this is you, stop reading, go figure it out, and come back to this at a different time.

If you are clear on what you want, good! Zero in on it with a magnifying glass and then step back. Here are some things that can help you hone in on that thing you want:

  1. Surround yourself with people who have similar interests that support your ambitions.   This is crucial.  Find anyone that is doing something similar to what you want to do and talk to them, ask questions, get to know them. Keep asking around until you find a connection or someone connects you.  As long as you feel they are not going to be competitive and are wholeheartedly interested in others excelling, then they are a part of your tribe that creates support and a continually building reference point.
  2. You must be your own cheerleader.  Sometimes you will be your own cheerleader. Know this and accept this fact. Don’t be bashful. Being your own cheerleader involves understanding your own personal needs and what keeps you balanced. If you read more of my blog posts there are suggestions as to what might keep you grounded in this process, but it starts with advocating for yourself.
  3. When someone says “no,” just go to the next option until you get a “yes.”  If you have exhausted yourself from at minimum 10 “No’s” create a new game plan to convey what you are envisioning.  And if for some reason you think you should keep going, keep going! Get 500 “no’s” if you believe in your dream that much.  There is always another route to your “yes.” Not everyone can see your vision, but you can.  Trust that if they don’t there is another way to reach the finish line with it.
  4. Remind yourself we are all souls on a journey, here to learn soul-lessons.  Don’t take everything so seriously; this is temporary.  Respect it, but don’t stress it.  Try to step back and look at the big picture, what are you struggling with, what could be your lesson to learn and how can you grow.  If you can recognize this then you can often get through roadblocks keeping you from getting to your desired outcome. 

 

Axe Your Anxiety

Want Magnificence?  Then you have to get rid of this.

“Fear.”

How often do you use the word afraid in your daily life?  Do you find yourself thinking, “I’m afraid or concerned this or that might happen…” ?

It’s a theme that keeps popping up more often than I am used to these days, whether it be in my own personal life or the lives of others around me. The thinker I am wants to know, why is this word so prevalent right now, and what can I learn from the fear? On a soul level, I reason that it is when you find fear in front of you, it’s an opportunity for growth. So, perhaps I am going through some growing pains. If fear is the catalyst for growth then in fact, it is a positive thing. If we pay attention, fear can be our greatest teacher.  The trick is to not get swept up in what the fear brings up.  In order to combat getting swept away in fearful thoughts, we can create a system to ground ourselves. First, check in with what is real – and that’s not the worst case scenario in your head. Second, get the facts.  Third and most importantly, to find it within yourself to keep moving through the fear until you make it through the muck. In the words of Winston Churchill,  “If you’re going through Hell, keep going.”

 

Do you feel fear lurking in your life too? We can feel our fear, but we have a choice in how we respond to it.  You might feel lonely in your fear but realize you are not alone. Call on your support whether that be a friend, a family member or maybe if you are a little woo woo, your guides. I reach for my guides when I need help.  Some might have a Saint, others it simply might be grabbing a stress ball or that favorite stuffed animal you grew up with.  Whatever it might be, just reach for support.   

When we get scared, we often freeze. Pay attention to what you personally do when you get scared and know this is when you must make a choice. The best choice most often is to forge ahead.  Moving forward is the only thing that can truly  dilute the fear and with that, bring in new energy.  Practice being positive.  Simply laughing and making light of the situation has the power to dissipate the heaviness.

What runs through your subconscious mind or what situation are you fearful of? You can run it through your nervous system or you can can you decide to drop the fear and trust the universe?  

The bottom line is: This is your journey. No one else’s.  You have the power to feel the fear and do it anyway.

You can choose your outlook and see the world through love and wonder, or you can choose to live in fear and longing for something different.  Only you can change your processing. Despite what may be going on in the world around us that may contribute to fearful thoughts, decide to take the journey less traveled and turn your fear into a positive.  

This is why we have inspirational people like Mattie Stepanek, who have graced our lives and are heroes because of their conscious choice to choose love and positivity over fear.  Despite what most would call a fearful and depressing situation to have a rare neuromuscular disease as a child, Stepanek chose love and optimism and wrote books of poetry about peace.

He is a reminder and example: Choose optimism. The harder it feels to find the optimism, the greater your learning curve.  When you can turn the table on something that seemed impossible in your mind and instead choose to see it in a positive light, you have done the most powerful thing you can do as a human: You have chosen to live a life of faith, love, and optimism, which creates everyday miracles.  

This is the challenge in all our journeys: to create a magnificent life by changing our thoughts. You can do it.

– Mo.

Forget the New Year’s Resolution and Do This Instead:

With the New Year, we all try to create better habits because we all want to be our best selves. This usually involves compiling a list of things that we wish we would do but don’t, whether it be short lived or not.  Then, we ultimately feel bad because we have created unrealistic expectations. What if we forget about the New Year’s resolutions and instead live by doing that thing that feeds/nourishes you. These are the signs: it brings you joy,  makes time nonexistent, is calming or grounding, and opens your heart.  It’s the thing that your friends or family can tell you is emphatically a part of who you are –it’s the one thing you do that helps to keep your life feel balanced.

For instance, I know the one thing that empowers my best friend is swimming.  It always has. When she swims, she goes into a place of balance; for my brother, it’s playing the guitar and singing; for another, it’s cooking. For me, it’s doing creative tasks, especially writing. I took my first oil painting class in college and I would get lost in time. Two hours went by and it felt like 20 minutes- nothing else existed. The same happens when I write.  There is always at least one thing in your life that does this for you- it appears to stop time and keeps you present. When we are present, we become centered, opening our hearts. From this place, it creates space in our lives to make change.  

What is the thing that does this for you?

Don’t worry about implementing or keeping new habits for the New Year that will likely fall to the wayside.  Instead, focus on refilling your inner well with the things that feed you. Make it a priority to do so on a regular basis, despite the demands of your life.  For instance, I must write on a regular basis to refill my well.  If I don’t write, I feel like something is missing, I’m internally off balance- my day doesn’t have the same kick to it.  An expression of myself is lost because it is my form of meditation.  If I can meditate on top of my writing, it’s a bonus, but my number one thing is my writing. No matter how many times I read how wonderful it is to sit down and meditate, writing is my number one priority.  What’s yours?

Do what is right for you.

What gives you peace and empowers you to feel your best self?  This is your own personal meditation.  Do it on a regular basis, don’t neglect it.  Push the other “important” things you have to get done to the side in order to do what you love and see the ripple effect. Watch how everything else falls into balance and creates more space in your life.  Rejuvenated, time appears to stretch and we are more balanced, creating joy. You are worth it, no matter how busy you are and how demanding your life is. 

Make it your New Year’s resolution to keep filling your well.  It ultimately empowers those around you to do the same, and you will serve as an example of the importance of loving yourself first in order to live joyfully.

 

Now, go be your own Superman or Superwoman.  Happy New You.  Fill your well.

 

Mo

 

Holiday 2016: Looking Back & Looking Forward

As 2017 approaches, the weather gets colder, and many settle in for hibernation time, I hope my blogs have created more compassion toward yourself and others and inspired you to create and trust in the power of your intuition.

As you look forward to the new year, plan and expect wonderful things to come. Cheers to a holiday of love and laughter and a new year of abundance.

Here are some of our year-in-review highlights:

  • Mo’s blog exploded with content in the past year, including 10 blog posts and a Newsletter for every month! Check out any you may have missed!
  • We were so excited to have been featured in 2 publications: Conscious Magazine and Autism Parenting Magazine.
  • Mo started her podcast and interview series in the back half of the year. Our first episode features chiropractor and holistic healer, Dr. Michelle Robin.
  • The MoMarshall.com website underwent a total upheaval. With our new format, there’s no excuse to miss a beat on Mo’s blog, Facebook activity, tweets, or her helpful insights on abundance, balance, and intuition.

Thank you for being apart of this year with us. As we look forward to more, take a look back with us at some of our favorite moments from 2016!

Wishing all the love and health to you this Holiday season,

-Mo

Even Your Most Annoying Family Member Can Bring You Abundance This Holiday

The holiday season is one of the most universally stressful times for people. There are people we love to see, people we don’t care to see, people we are neutral about and people who inspire.  We see all these people around the Thanksgiving table. The important thing is to know and recognize who it is that makes you want to soar and who makes you want to take a nap.

The reality is, we all have friends or family members who can be challenging or difficult. Whether you have 2 or 20 good relationships of friends or family, take a look at all of them.  Who brings you joy?  Who inspires you to think and dream larger?  Who makes you feel smaller or dims your optimism?  For the least amount of stress during the holiday season, It’s important to really take the time and ask yourself these questions because this gives you more room to not be reactive. And for those who don’t make you want to soar, practice not expecting anything else of them. Internally, thank them for the reminders they give you about what it is that does not generate positivity.  We are all here for a purpose even if to our own eyes it’s not clear what that might be.  If you consciously decide to accept each person for the role they have in your life then that is all that needs to be done.  It’s an exercise of gratitude and tolerance.  Perhaps you can look at that which you find stressful during the holiday season as a mirror to yourself of how grateful and accepting you are of others.  No need for fighting or bickering, just accept whoever is not your favorite. This is maturity. It’s reality- specifically, the lens you use to see the world which directly impacts your experience of your holiday or life.

I am fortunate enough to be surrounded by a good amount of people who are models of abundance and positivity: they have worked very hard in their lives and have created a vast amount of abundance in their every day – in their relationships, their jobs, their work and home environments. They are my favorite people to be surrounded by on holidays. The thread that ties them all together is curiosity and passion for life. Their personal mindset of abundance is physically mirrored by their environment. This is the reality they have cultivated and built for themselves. Do you see this in the people around you? Do they cherish the present and take care of the world around them, or are they a hot mess?

So, how can you find abundance in even the most difficult family members? What I have found in people who are profoundly abundant is that they have minds that think so far beyond what one would call “the usual.” It is almost inevitable that they would find their way to the profound abundance they have.  How does one do this? They think, imagine and dream up things all the time.  They often speak almost another language because they are always using their imagination as a tool to create.  That is, the reality they have created in their mind is so vast, that they forget that not everyone thinks this way.

I would say the first step to creating more abundance is to dream regularly.  But make it a dream that is as large as possible.  Make it a dream that is not for yourself, but for others.  What is the one thing in your life that you can dream of creating that will positively affect others and the greater world – that is what I’m talking about.  Not a dream about the new car you want or the next new thing to buy.  Dream about real change- change that touches someone other than yourself and your ego.

This is the difference between those who create profound lives and those who create average ones- it’s one’s ability to and awareness of effecting the large picture of the world- not just your own reality.  There is nothing wrong with what might be called a “simple reality” of only wanting to change your life – the world needs this.  Accept it, embrace it and be happy about it, don’t dwell in the what ifs or negativity.  If you are dissatisfied with your reality, this is when you have to challenge yourself to think bigger and create a new one.  I challenge you this holiday season to be more accepting of the Aunt, Cousin, or the in-law that irks you;  instead,  have compassion for them – they are serving as an example of what is to not dream and imagine and see the larger picture.  Have empathy and be kind.  They prefer a different reality and there is absolutely nothing bad or wrong about that- in fact, it makes the world go round and what makes the holiday season even more interesting and another reason for that extra glass of wine!

Cheers and Happy Holidays!

Mo

Interview with Dr. Michelle Robin

Listen to the audio of this interview below.

 

Michelle:  Good Morning, Mo!

Mo: Good morning! I thought if I could give my readers tools, it would provide another reference to put intuition at the forefront. So Michelle, tell me: what is it that you do, and how did you get onto this path of wellness?

I happened to go to the chiropractor after I hurt my pelvis playing basketball, and while I don’t remember much about the chiropractic experience, I do remember they way they made me feel. I really fell in love with helping people feel better holistically.

When I went to college, I wanted to be a chiropractor but I wasn’t very good at science. As a senior, I finally told myself I could figure it out.

Now, I help people write a wellness plan for their life. People have plans for their finances, and they have plans for their vacation, and they have plans for their career, but they don’t have a plan for their most important asset, which is their well being. I look at the person form the whole perspective— mechanical health, chemical, psychological, and spiritual.

My mini-book has ways and tools to think about your body holistically, with some tools.

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How do you define wellness and self-care?

I think about wellness, or “well-being”— I like to use that word more, because I like the being-“ness” of it, and “well-being” in the dictionary means “happiness” — and I have tried to figure how I could be more happy through my life.

I have a sprained ankle right now, and I don’t know about you, but it is hard to be happy when you are dealing with a sprained ankle, or a broken pelvis, or a broken heart, or a digestion problem, or depression-anxiety.

So, for me, well-being is being able to move through life without your body, mind, or spirit getting in the way. So, self care or well being is self-love.

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How do you create your own self-care routine?

I’ve amped it up, that’s for sure. For years, I did things like chiropractic care or massage care. I’d move, whether it’s walking with my friends, or biking or swimming, or taking time to be more present.

Typically, before I leave for the office, I’ve done more self-care than most people do in probably a week.  My routine is I’ll get up and drink a glass of lemon water, then maybe taking a few supplements based on my genetic profile, and then I’ll do an affirmation. Then I will go and do some exercises for my posture. I may do a bio-mat, a swinging machine I use for my lymphatic system, or I’ll go for a walk or a swim. I’ll have a glass of bone broth, or some juice.

That’s kind of my rockstar morning. I probably start my morning that way 4 or 5 times a week. I intentionally try to not have meetings every single morning at 7:30. Then I go about my day and take care of my clients, have a lunch meeting with a friend, walk my dogs.

Yeah, this is all part of my self-care.

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How does taking care of yourself like that tie into your intuition?

Oh gosh, I think it’s such a big deal to really listen. I just went through the 23andMe genetic counseling. What they do is look where you may have some hiccups in your genes, but I had intuitively known that because I’ve listened! If I eat this food, and I don’t feel great from it, I am tuning in— to how I feel when I am around people, to the food I am eating, to how I feel with a song I am listening to.

So I use my intuition so much and I don’t think I realized how much I used it until I looked at my genetic results. I knew I didn’t respond well to alcohol. I knew I didn’t respond well to taking NSAIDs. Not because I had a bad reaction, but I just knew it intuitively.

So, I think people should really just quit listening to everybody else about their body. Take that as guidance, but don’t take that as fact for your body. Use your health practitioners as guides. I don’t know what is best for you, but I can definitely nudge you and guide you, and encourage you to tune in and listen.

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You define wellness as the “approach of mind, body and spirit.” What have you learned most about the power of energy and belief?

That your body-mind-spirit is the most amazing tool, machine, car, computer— whatever you want to call it– people take it for granted.

They value sometimes more their vehicle, Mac computer, or iPhone than they value themselves.  I think we have to put ourselves in the equation more.

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What about your injury? When you broke your pelvis, what’s the biggest lesson you learned about your body and the power of belief?

Showing up. Showing up for yourself, and taking that time. It’s easy for me to show up for somebody else. But I had to really turn that on myself, and then allow other people to show up for me.

And taking time. I learned so much. I think I had the odds in my favor, because I was moving, I was grateful, I was fueling my body right. I was tuned in.

I learned to really show up for myself.

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Do you believe that abundance and wellness are connected, and if so, how?

God, I’ve never been asked that, Mo. That’s a great question.

I do believe they are connected because I think it is hard to feel abundant without feeling happy in your mind-body-spirit. And once again, when I see the word “well-being” and “happiness,” they mean the same thing to me.

Without a doubt. I don’t think you can feel abundant without feeling healthy.

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What are some small changes anyone can make that will put them on a path to wellness and make a noticeable difference in their quality of life.

This is so simple, but it’s probably in the top 5 that people pick when I travel across the country.

Drink water! It is so stinkin’ simple, but people don’t do it. Drinking water is huge.

I think checking in with your body. Ask yourself, “You know what, I had that broccoli. How do I feel? I had that coffee. How do I feel?” I think that is a big-small change. Just really, really trust yourself.

Also, having food before you have alcohol or caffeine.

Here’s another big one: chew your food! Think about how you chew food and absorb life. Are you just surfacing through it; are you just really not even tapping in and not really tasting it?

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What’s the message you wish people would hear. What is the most important thing you wish people knew?

Well, let me ask you: do you have a budget for your wellness?

I don’t!

I would say where you invest your time and energy is what’s important to you. My second budget item is my well-being, right there by my groceries. My groceries are probably number 3.

I want people to know that you either invest as you go or your body sends you a big bill later.

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Mo: Well, that’s all my questions.

Michelle: Oh, Gosh you are amazing, Mo!

Mo: I think you are amazing! I love this, because I think it’s so important. You are doing so much for people. You are really a healer.

Michelle: I am just trying to encourage people to love themselves enough to care of themselves.

Mo: You are doing it, though.

Michelle: Thank you, Mo.

Mo: Thank you!

What keeps you awake at night?

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What is that one thing that you are constantly trying to figure out; a situation where you might not have a concrete answer to? Usually, that thing that keeps you awake at night. It is what you think about when you have small pockets of time.  It’s that situation that you want changed or to appear. It’s that thing you want, but are afraid won’t happen.

Now, I’m going to ask you to stop the internal chatter in your head. This is the part of yourself that tries to be in control of the uncontrollable.  First, take a breath and start by offering that part of yourself some compassion. Acknowledge that you’re scared and feel out of control. That’s okay, but allow yourself to take some space from that thing. Trust it will unfold as it should and tell the scared part of you that you will not let it run your life or take up your sleepless nights any more.

That’s it. You have power. Decide to let it go. It’s going to be okay.  Give it to the universe or give it to whatever higher power you believe in. Release it and with that, decide you will not let this “want” take over your free moments of space and perhaps, decide the answer or outcome isn’t that important or may not be the point. What will be will be. We have a choice to trust ourselves, our paths, and the universe.  It’s when you release the questioning and struggle of  “trying to figure it out” that a resolution appears.  Be patient. Think of how much time you have put into this thing that takes up your headspace and give it equal time in patience for the outcome. Offer comfort to yourself because it’s going to be okay. Know that the best things unfold naturally on their own.

You don’t have to agonize over it.  You don’t have to create a schedule, put aside time, or map it out five different ways. You no longer need to think of countless different strategies to create the outcome you believe you want. You don’t even have to hope for it or think about the what if. Just surrender the outcome. Be brave. Surrender your challenge and trust in your outcome. It might be different than you were trying to create, nudge or force. Go back to the decision of being brave and letting it go. Set it free. This is bravery at its core. This is what makes us human. This is what makes all of this a journey. This is what makes you the special and unique soul that you are. There are no duplicates of you. Smile at that thought and then be at peace, because you have won your challenge simply by letting go.

 

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